The 4 R Tool

Human life has complexities beyond imagination. Actively or passively these complexities do create disturbances in our inner and outer environments.

The 4R Technique has helped me big time whenever I have needed to fix any of these threads.

Here is an attempt to share the #4RTool:

Once you have identified what's to be fixed , let's get to the 1st R:

R - #Removal
Just like it  takes 21 days to form a habit , it takes exactly the same time to remove anything that exist in your environment and is untoward.

For instance, if you are having gut issues, remove the foods that are not gut friendly.

If  your friend or a close nit is causing you discomfort and refuses to realize, remove from her or him the power to affect you.

The 2nd R is:

R- #Replacement
Now that you have removed the foods causing trouble to your gut, figure to replace them with alternatives.

Of Course there will be a lot of stuff at the #Removal stage which you just can't replace overnight especially when it comes to relationships.

For a fact, people you love the most tend to hurt you the most and then behave as though nothing ever happened.

The #hard #truth is that you can't change what's outside but what you can do something about, is what's within.

There may be a bit of a wait and watch element here till you reach the 3rd R.
Sometimes a detach element helps gain perspective.

The 2nd R tool works well with handling  toxicity though. #Replacement gives us

- The strength to Withhold & Absorb
- The strength to speak up at the right time and the right place with the right set of people, to recognise these before you share.
- The strength to keep yourself in the center and at the peripherals.
- The strength to accept that your emotions to your attachments are beautiful, they are your own. No one and just no one  has the right to mess around with them.

The 3rd R is:

R - #Repair

This R is to work on the damage & minimize its effect.

With your health, obtain the necessary professional help based on requirement. Practice the replacements incorporated.

With people, we strengthen ourselves from within once we've withdrawn the power of giving us discomfort from that equation.

Seek to give out instances to test the waters and check if there is any trace of change. Take this phase to give yourself enough space to decide.

With situations and mindsets , plan out your actionable

The final - forth R is:

R - #Reinforce

The first and second R also gives us a hidden power i.e the strength to keep in our environment the 3/4th of the glass that was  full while we attempt to fix the 1/4th of the glass that's empty.

Reinforcing is about focusing on what's there , building on it and  building on what we've added or decided. This phase may also tell us to ignore the 1/4th part of the glass that's empty!